Resources
The Betrayed Husband's Survival Guide Kindle Edition
by Gary Owens
https://smile.amazon.com/Betrayed-Husbands-Survival-Guide-ebook/dp/B08YDDLGHT/
Hope for Men Workbook – by Dr. Ted Roberts & Diane Roberts
Christian Resource
“Designed for individual or group use, Hope for Men uncovers the deep pain
and fear that resides in men who have experienced betrayal. Most men react
in anger and ignore their need for healing. This journey will require a
level of courage you’ve never experienced.” https://puredesire.org/shop/hope-for-men/
Betrayed Male Partners Online Support Group
This ongoing weekly therapy group is a much-needed resource for men who have experienced betrayal or infidelity by a partner or spouse. Because there are so few resources available to male betrayed partners, they often face recovery from betrayal trauma in shame and isolation. This group provides a safe space for men who seek gender-specific validation and support for their experiences of loving partners who have betrayed them and/or are addicted to sex to share their stories, connect with other men and learn tools for healing. This group offers participants the opportunity to process and share their own feelings and experiences as well as psychoeducation about topics such as:
Boundaries
Communication
Self-Care
Relational Healing
Shame
Isolation
Complex Trauma
Emotional Regulation When:
Fridays from 2:00 – 3:30pm PST
Where: Online through a free, confidential conferencing software Cost: $85/week (payable at the beginning of every month) Registration: Space is limited for this ongoing group. Please contact John McNamara, LMFT at john@lacrh.com to reserve your space today.
HOPE AFTER BETRAYAL “private” Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeafterbetrayal/
This group is for betrayed partners only and is a private group where only
group members can participate and see each other’s posts. It’s for both
female and male partners; the information says there are a good number of
men in the group and they have been welcomed by the female group members and
are offering each other great support. The therapist who started the group
says, “I post a video each week discussing some of the key challenges
facing betrayed partners who are in recovery, and I also interact with members
as they post questions and issues they are wrestling with. I have been
really pleased as the group has started to shape up about the level of
constructive support being offered to members by one another. We are working
hard to norm the group as a place to work on recovery not only to vent or
share.”
Sexual Betrayal Recovery Kit - Free Download created by Psychologist Christiana Bell
https://www.christinabell.net/downloads
SUPPORT FELLOWSHIPS
(12-Step)
COSA
COSA is a Twelve Step recovery program for those whose lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior.
http://www.cosa-recovery.org/home.html
CoSA Meeting - Men’s Only (phone and perhaps online now)
Closed meeting - for men only. Newcomers welcome after screening (email
below) Email: MenInCOSA@gmail.com
Listen to male speaker’s story, here:
INFIDELITY SURVIVORS ANONYMOUS
S-ANON
S-Anon International Family Groups offers hope & help for family & friends of sexaholics (sex and love addicts)
PODCAST SERIES: MALE PARTNER (OF FEMALE SEX/LOVE/PORN ADDICT) SUPPORT
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN NOW - Lacy Alajna Bentley and Hope Ray
Lacy writes: “The first track in an interview I did with Hope, that spurred a collaboration for the series on Male Partner Support. Women's pornography addiction is just starting to break through the stereotypes of male issues. With the new light being shed on female addiction, their partners are not far behind in seeking support and help in recovering the relationship and/or a semblance of control.
Topics covered include:
- This is not your fault
- How to know if she's really in recovery
- Triggers--yours and hers
- Your strengths in recovery
- Disclosure
- Boundaries
- What to do instead of punching the other guy
Plus a few laughs and a whole lot of "You can do this!"
PODCAST EPISODE: MALE PARTNERS OF FEMALE SEX ADDICTS
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN NOW - From Thanks for Sharing Podcast by Jonathan Taylor and Jackie Pack
SEX AND RELATIONSHIP HEALING: PARTNERS
FROM SexandRelationshipHealing.com Here you will find basic information about healing from sexual and romantic betrayal and the trauma you’ve experienced. You will find this material useful as you travel the road of healing.
TOP 10 INFIDELITY BLOGS AND WEBSITES TO FOLLOW IN 2018
https://blog.feedspot.com/infidelity_blogs/
BOOKS
The Betrayed Husband's Survival Guide Kindle Edition
by Gary Owens
https://smile.amazon.com/Betrayed-Husbands-Survival-Guide-ebook/dp/B08YDDLGHT/
SPECIFIC TO PARTNERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED SEXUAL BETRAYAL/INTIMATE DECEPTION - SOME GENDER NEUTRAL, some written for women with principles that apply to betrayed men:
Healing From Betrayal: An eBook for Partners and Spouses of Sex and Pornography Addicts by Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S - Great "First Steps" for any partner!
Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Sheri Keffer
More GREAT BOOKS for PARTNERS HERE - Center for Healthy Sex, L.A., CA, USA
BOOKS ON HEALING AFTER AFFAIRS, INCLUDING EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS
Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage by Dave Carder
In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People Dr. George K. Simon Ph.D.
BOOKS ON SEXUAL REINTEGRATION
BOOKS FOR MEN ON HEALTHY MASCULINITY:
Men and Friendship by Stuart Miller
The Man In Me, by Ross Firestone
The Wonder of Boys and The Minds of Boys by Michael Gurian
BOOKS FOR MEN WITH PARTNERS WHO HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED:
Partners In Recovery by Beverly Engel, MFCC
Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child by Laura Davis
OTHER RELATED PODCASTS:
THANKS FOR SHARING
This is the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships. Exploring a variety of topics with people in recovery and the professionals who help them through personal stories. This podcast will give you a broad look at the aspects of recovery that make a difference. https://thanksforsharing.podbean.com/
THE BETRAYED, THE ADDICT, AND THE EXPERT
Each week they share 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery & addiction leaving you with HOPE for change no matter your circumstance. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-betrayed-the-addicted-the-expert/id1208799616?mt=2
THE MAN RULES PODCAST
Live with intention. Build connection. Create a more meaningful life. Host Dan Griffin shows you how, through funny and insightful conversations about The Man Rules® — those often-unconscious expectations that shape what it means to be a “real man” in the 21st century. It’s a must-listen for anyone seeking to live a more authentic life.
Find all of our great episodes and the blogs summarizing each episode as well as highlighting our audience favorite Practical and Tactical Tips and Strategies from all of our guests HERE. http://www.dangriffin.com/man-rules-podcast/
A Brave New Man Podcast
Let’s talk about healthy masculinity and intimate relationships. This podcast is for men, women, and anyone who could benefit from hearing about how to create happier, healthier relationships and lives. Sample episode titles include “Eroticized Rage” and “Sex and Porn Addiction” - and much more!
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/a-brave-new-man/id1455918385?mt=2
ONE IN SIX
For men whose lives have been disrupted by unwanted or abusive sexual experiences, working through it can help turn things around. https://1in6.org/
THE MANKIND PROJECT
The ManKind Project is men's community for the 21st Century. MKP is a nonprofit training and education organization with three decades of proven success hosting life-changing experiential personal development programs for men. MKP supports a global network of free peer-facilitated men's groups and supports men in leading lives of integrity, authenticity, and service.
ILLUMAN
Illuman is a not for profit organization for men who are simply interested in becoming better, more authentic men. We welcome all men to our work without regard for your ethnicity, class, education, sexual orientation, religion or any other characteristic that might make you feel excluded. To learn more about Illuman, please click here. https://www.illuman.org/
THE GOOD MEN PROJECT: THE CONVERSATION NO ONE ELSE IS HAVING
The Good Men Project was founded in 2009 in the United States by Tom Matlack and James Houghton as a way to allow men to tell stories about the defining moments in their lives.
THE ADDICTED MIND
Per Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT: "The struggle of addiction comes with so much grief and loss. My early experience in rehab and the loss of my daughter has informed much of the work I do. I have worked in the addiction field now for over a decade. Helping people out of addiction has been how I give back. My hope is that The Addicted Mind podcast can become a part of that. I want people to find reliable information about addiction treatment and research. I want people to know that it gets better with the right support and knowledge." http://theaddictedmind.com/
TREATMENT (for men and women partners)
The Meadows: Intimate Treason for Partners of Sex Addiction
https://www.themeadows.com/workshops/healing-intimate-treason-for-partners-of-sex-addiction
Center for Healthy Sex: Treatment Options for Partners
http://centerforhealthysex.com/partners-of-sex-addicts/therapy-options-for-partners/
Bethesda Workshops - “Healing for Partners intensive”